I was looking for a weighted kappa code, but could not find one. Here is the solution. First in PHP then Java.

<?php
$kappa[0][0]=44;
$kappa[0][1]=5;
$kappa[0][2]=1;
$kappa[1][0]=7;
$kappa[1][1]=20;
$kappa[1][2]=3;
$kappa[2][0]=9;
$kappa[2][1]=5;
$kappa[2][2]=6;
findKappa($kappa);
function findKappa($kappa){
    #we have the counts stored in an nxn matrix
    #convert "observed matrix" from counts to frequencies
    $sum = sumOfAllElements($kappa);
    foreach($kappa as $i=>$r){
        foreach($r as $j=>$c){
            $kappa[$i][$j] = $kappa[$i][$j]/$sum;
        }
    }
    #echo "observed matrix:".json_encode($matrix)."</p>";
    #now, let's find the "chance matrix"
    $chance=array();
    foreach($kappa as $i=>$r){
        foreach($r as $j=>$c){
            $chance[$i][$j] =
            array_sum(getRow($kappa, $i))*array_sum(getColumn($kappa, $j));
        }
    }
    #echo "chance matrix:".json_encode($chance)."</p>";
    #we will use a weight matrix
    #there are two main ways to calculate the weight matrix;
    #linear or quadratic
    #we will use the linear one

    $weight = array();
    $rowCount = count($kappa);
    #echo "each dimension:".$rowCount;
    #$rowCount = $columnCount, because the observation matrix is an nxn matrix.
   for($i=0;$i<$rowCount;$i++){
        for($j=0;$j<$rowCount;$j++){
           $weight[$i][$j]=1-(abs($i-$j)/($rowCount-1));
            #this would be the quadratic one:
            #$weight[$i][$j]=1-pow((abs($i-$j)/$rowCount),2);
        }
    }
    #echo "weight matrix:".json_encode($weight)."</p>";
    #now, 1)multiply each element in the observed matrix
    #by corresponding weight element and sum it all
    #2)do the same thing with chance matrix
    $sumOfObserved = 0;
    $sumOfChance = 0;
    for($i=0;$i<$rowCount;$i++){
        for($j=0;$j<$rowCount;$j++){
            $sumOfObserved += $kappa[$i][$j]*$weight[$i][$j];
            $sumOfChance += $chance[$i][$j]*$weight[$i][$j];
        }
    }
    #the formula for kappa is this:
   $kappaValue = ($sumOfObserved-$sumOfChance)/(1-$sumOfChance);
    echo "<h3>here is your kappa value:".$kappaValue."</h3>";
}
function getArrayFirstIndex($arr){
    foreach ($arr as $key => $value)
    return $key;
}
function sumOfAllElements($matrix){
    $sum = 0;
    foreach($matrix as $row){
        $sum+=array_sum($row);
    }
    return $sum;
}
function getRow($matrix,$row){
    return $matrix[$row];
}
function getColumn($matrix,$column){
    $col = array();
    foreach($matrix as $row){
        #add each $row[$column] to the $column array
        $col[]=$row[$column];
    }
    return $col;
}
?>

public class Test {
	public static void main(String args[]){
		double kappa[][] = new double[3][3];
		kappa[0][0]=44;
		kappa[0][1]=5;
		kappa[0][2]=1;
		kappa[1][0]=7;
		kappa[1][1]=20;
		kappa[1][2]=3;
		kappa[2][0]=9;
		kappa[2][1]=5;
		kappa[2][2]=6;
		findKappa(kappa);
	}
	static void findKappa(double [][]kappa){
		//we have the counts stored in an nxn matrix
		//convert "observed matrix" from counts to frequencies
		double sum = sumOfAllElements(kappa);
		for (int k = 0; k < kappa.length; k++) {
			for (int k2 = 0; k2 < kappa.length; k2++) {
				kappa[k][k2] = kappa[k][k2]/sum;
			}
		}

		//echo "observed matrix:".json_encode(matrix)."</p>";
		//now, let's find the "chance matrix"
		double chance[][] = new double[3][3];
		for (int k = 0; k < kappa.length; k++) {
			for (int k2 = 0; k2 < kappa.length; k2++) {
				chance[k][k2] =
					array_sum(getRow(kappa, k))*array_sum(getColumn(kappa, k2));
			}
		}
		//echo "chance matrix:".json_encode(chance)."</p>";
		//we will use a weight matrix
		//there are two main ways to calculate the weight matrix;
		//linear or quadratic
		//we will use the linear one

		double weight[][] = new double[3][3];
		double rowCount = kappa.length;
		//echo "each dimension:".rowCount;
		//rowCount = columnCount, because the observation matrix is an nxn matrix.
		for(int i=0;i<rowCount;i++){
			for(int j=0;j<rowCount;j++){
				weight[i][j]=1-(Math.abs(i-j)/(rowCount-1));
				//this would be the quadratic one:
				//weight[i][j]=1-pow((abs(i-j)/rowCount),2);
			}
		}
		//echo "weight matrix:".json_encode(weight)."</p>";
		//now, 1)multiply each element in the observed matrix
		//by corresponding weight element and sum it all
		//2)do the same thing with chance matrix
		double sumOfObserved = 0;
		double sumOfChance = 0;
		for(int i=0;i<rowCount;i++){
			for(int j=0;j<rowCount;j++){
				sumOfObserved += kappa[i][j]*weight[i][j];
				sumOfChance += chance[i][j]*weight[i][j];
			}
		}
		//the formula for kappa is this:
		double kappaValue = (sumOfObserved-sumOfChance)/(1-sumOfChance);
		System.out.println("here is your kappa value:"+kappaValue);
	}
	static double array_sum(double arr[]){
		double sum=0;
		for (int i=0; i < arr.length; i++)
			sum+=arr[i];
		return sum;
	}
	static double sumOfAllElements(double[][] matrix){
		double sum = 0;
		for (int i = 0; i < matrix.length; i++) {
			for (int j = 0; j < matrix.length; j++) {
				sum+=matrix[i][j];
			}
		}
		return sum;
	}
	static double[] getRow(double matrix[][],int row){
		return matrix[row];
	}
	static double[] getColumn(double matrix[][],int column){
		double col[]=new double[3];
		for (int i = 0; i < matrix.length; i++) {
				col[i]=matrix[i][column];
		}
		return col;
	}

}